There’s a big part of us that doesn’t like chaos: we want order and simplicity and feeling like we’re on top of things and doing things the “right” way.
And so when things feel chaotic, we scramble for some kind of stability.

In fact, the uncertainty of our chaotic lives is perhaps the main cause of our anxiety, stress, frustration, self-doubt, fears, procrastination, distraction and more. We know when we’re feeling this chaos when we’re reaching for a new tool, system, method, tactic, plan, expert, book on a topic … or our phones.

There is nothing wrong with any of these things. It’s just how we normally respond to chaos.
But if we could relax in the middle of that chaos, it could do so much for us:

• We would be OK with the feeling of overwhelm, and not need to panic or feel bad.

• We would simply take the next step.

• We could focus on one thing at a time.

• We could put our work out in to the world, letting ourselves be with the shakiness of being judged.

• We could be with someone’s upsetness, giving them compassion rather than worrying about whether we’ll be OK.

• We could simply meditate, go for a walk, exercise, eat healthy food, deal with our finances, and do all kinds of other simple, helpful actions that we put off when we feel stressed about chaos.

• And much, much more.

The training is to learn to relax with chaos. And from that place, decide on the next simple step.

Notice when you’re feeling chaos, and then pause.
Breathe. Deep into your belly, slowly, letting yourself relax with each breath.
Then learn to relax with this feeling of chaos, uncertainty, fear, anxiety, shakiness, groundlessness.
Breathe, and with each breath, relax into the feeling of uncertainty and chaos.
Repeat.

Namaste
xo