When you love someone, the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you are not there ~Thích Nhat Hanh

If we stop and think about it, what message does it send to the human beings in front of us when we are busy on our phones?

Technology certainly is a huge barrier to presence, but it’s not the main culprit.
The main culprit lives between our ears, the mind.

The mind is a lot like a talking alarm clock, and you have no control over when it goes off and what it will say.

For example, I can be sitting face to face with someone, physically a few centimeters in distance, but consciously, a world away.

Instead of listening to what the person sitting across from us is saying, we listen to our thoughts.
Hey, did I leave the oven on this morning when I left the house?
Did I lock my car?
What should I make for dinner?

On the other hand, when someone is really listening to us, fully present with us in the moment, we can be certain. Without a doubt, because we feel it.

It’s tough to put such moments into words, but you just know.

Moments when we’re fully present with someone and it’s reciprocated, it’s like magic, like the rest of the world fades into the background. Like the first time you fall in love and you just feel connected; you feel the dance of communication, the resonating, the synchronicity, the oneness.

That’s it. This, for me, is what presence is all about. The oneness.

A few of my favourite ways to get present and cultivate oneness are:

• Eye contact

• Listening to understand instead of listening to respond

• Limit distractions

• Be with my senses

Try it and see how presence opens your communication and improves your relationships.

Namaste
xo